week 8: post 2

In chapter 13, the section on social support and religious faith states ways in which children cope with stress. "Social support is a major factor that strengths the ability to deal with stress." In the text they mention that relatives, teachers, peers, pets, community programs all aid in helping children deal with stress. I fully agree with these statements. When I was younger and upset I resorted to hugging my dog and my mother for support. For me, a pet, especially dogs, always offers silent support for when I am upset. When I was 10 years old my parents got this miniature Australian shepherd named Chloe and whenever I was crying she would always shuffle her fluffy self over to me and offer compassion. I was able to cry while hugging my dog; however, since I moved out of my parents house, I got a cat who just does not seem to understand human emotion as well as my dog. Ever since I have moved out, I have said that I cannot wait until I get a dog because of how calming the presence of a dog can be.

Another coping system children can use to deal with stress is religion. "Faith is psychologically protective when it helps children reinterpret their experiences." Religion helps give children a sense of security during uncertain times. For example if a grandparent of the child passes away, a child might be comforted when a relative says "Grandma went to Heaven because God says it was her time." In my experience, even in later life, I have found that when people believe in the aspect of fate, it seems to be soothing to them. I have worked in just about ever department of a hospital and I have heard a variety of statements consisting of "Well I guess everything has to happen for a reason." This statement neutralizes any blame and, in turn, makes people look positively on the situation. Regret and guilt make people upset to the point where they could become depressed. This outlook, an optimistic approach, means that the person will work through whatever life throws at them (Berger, 356).