Week 4 post 1

From this weeks chapter something that I found very fascinating was the way parents care for there child; proximal parenting or distal parenting or in between. The ways of parenting may explain why some children or individuals in our society may have a hard time making adjustments such as in relationships…etc. Proximal parenting as explained in the text is during the care giving process there is a lot of physical contact such as holding or touching the child. On the other hand distal parenting is remaining distant and providing the child with objects (toys, food) within reach with limited holding and touching of the child during the care giving process. When reading through the text it made me stop and think about what way of parenting would be a better style? As I thought about it; I came up with that it should be half way in between the two parenting situations. The reason I think that it should be half way between proximal parenting and distal parenting is so that the child can feel a connection in some ways with the parent but also is able to be independent but listens to instructions later as they get older. Not only is making the child aware that they are loved is important but also letting them explore on there own with out being over protected. Relating these two ways of parenting to real life is if a parent is always holding the child or protecting in a way the child will have a harder time being independent and expecting the parent to lead them in some way. Also if the parent is distant from the child it could create a situation where the child may not feel a close relationship with them or becoming rebellious in way by not following instructions. To create a balance between the two; parents should develop a connection with the child but also allow the child to be an explorer.