I found the demand/withdrawal interaction interesting. The demand/withdrawal interaction occurs when one person, wants to right a situation, and the other person pulls away, leaving things unresolved. According to Berger, women are more likely to by the initiator of the conversation (the demand), whereas men are on the receiving end, hesitating to reciprocate. This type of communication causes marital dissatisfaction and effects both married couples and dating couples. In addition, the D/W interaction has the possibility of becoming harmful if the roles were reversed (as in the male was the demander and the female was the withdrawal).
Analyzing the causes of demand/withdrawal interaction, the "withdrawal" might pull away due to many underlying issues: holding some resentment towards their mate, lacking respect for their mate and their mate's concerns, selfishness, laziness, or simply because their partner makes unrealistic demands. In young adults, I believe the "withdrawal" could be the result of immaturity because the person pulling away makes no effort to take responsibility for fixing the initial issue. On the opposite side of the septrum, the demanding person's faults could could be needing to be in control all of the time, therefore forcing unrealisitc goals on their mate. The D/W interaction could also be the result of discontinuity in their social homogamy. This destructive pattern seems to be a vicious cycle because the withdrawal becomes more distant, therefore causing the "demander" to make even more demands, leading the withdrawal to withdraw further. Some intervening such as marital counseling could break the cycle of the demand/withdraw interaction.
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