Week 12 Post 1

To me I always found that parent violence was dumb. If someone ever hit me or anything I would be out of the relationship right away and wouldn’t even think about getting back with them no matter what they said. However after reading this chapter I understand why some people would stay. In intimate terrorism this is a violent demeaning form of abuse in a romantic relationships, where the victim usually female, is frightened to fight back, seek help, or withdraw. I feel for most victims they suffer from a sort of Stockholm syndrome where the person beats them but then tells them that they love them and they would never do it again and they’re sorry and then the relationship is good for a few days before something makes the abuser snap and start beating their significant other again and the cycle continues. I also have this mindset that women are always the ones getting abused however I realize this is not always the case. Some women can be violent and mean and verbal abuse is also a very real thing that people have to be aware of in relationships. I had a roommate who would constantly scream at her boyfriend and call him horrible things on the phone and I was dumbfounded how someone could ever put up with that. Then the next second she would be saying how much she missed him and loved him and I guess his reasoning was she was just moody or had a meltdown that caused her to say those things and she didn’t really mean it.