week 11

Chapter 19 discusses the psychosocial development of emerging adults.  The section that I found interesting was the dimensions of love. There are three distinct aspect of love that I never really considered; passion, intimacy and commitment. Sternberg believes the presence or absence of the three gives rises to seven different forms of love: liking, infatuation, empty, romantic, fatuous, companionate, and consummate. From past relationships if found myself in loving in the form of companionate. I used to be intimate and committed but did not have passion for them. There is some evidence that passion dies once couples get to know one another. I think that is where my problem lies; I loose passion for the person. I think dialectal thinking could be applied to this. I believe  with getting to know each other the relationships eventually  changes and one may lose either passion, intimacy or commitment; one must accept this and try to adapt to it or regain the loss of form of love they once had for the person. Also, in the text it states that commitment tends to increase once children are born. This is not always the case, a couple may be having problems already and having a child will not make those problems go away. A lot of people have this idea if they have a child with that person then they will stay committed to them. I see a lot of my friends and family members having babies to keep their significant other around.